What Women Want #3: The Exact Same Thing That We Men Want

Was chatting with Hamlet earlier and this was how the conversation went:

Mr. Kevin Chan - Hamlet's Hero says:
gah i dont know what to write for this week's what women want!

maria's bloody tree. says:
write something different la

maria's bloody tree. says:
like how come

maria's bloody tree. says:
some women

maria's bloody tree. says:
settle for casual sex

maria's bloody tree. says:
and one night stands

Mr. Kevin Chan - Hamlet's Hero says:
You're a genius! (:

Yes, you got it right, today's article will be all about how women want sex as much as men, if not more than us men.

Before you feminists out there start preparing to flame me for my heinous sin of painting in overtly broad strokes, let me just make clarify that I'm not out here today to brand every being with a vagina out there a reckless nymphomaniac, but that girls are also sexual creatures, just like we men are.

Don't deny it, we're all sexual beings here, but I guess I was once young and naive, thinking that girls never had these urges that I had. I used to think that they were all pure and devoid of naughty desires because they always acted disgusted when they overheard us guys discussing what we love to discuss most in school. It was only later that I realized that it was indeed, just an act. Yes, I was young and naive once.

It just didn't click in my head that the girls around me had the same desires, just that they hid it better. Way better.

I'm not saying that all girls sleep around, or am condoning pre-marital sex, but the point that I want you to bring home is this:

Hamlet's Hero lesson #4: Girls want it as much as you do, they just don't want the world to know it.

When I talk about girls being sexual beings too, I'm not only talking about sexual intercourse here, but of all things sexual - from playing footsie under the table, making out in a HDB stairwell to getting the whole act going. Girls want it as much as we do, guys, they really do.

Please don't take me literally here and say that I'm assuming that all girls are AS sexual as YOU. Every girl is different (yes you femi-nazis, I'm actually saying this) and some are hornier than others lah. The main point is that they're sexual beings, like us guys too.

Why else do you think that women's magazines are full with hot sex tips and long romantic (read: erotic) stories? Why else women gossip about who's sleeping with who and who all the time? Why else do women have a sexual organ dedicated purely to pleasure that we guys don't have (penises are multipurpose organs)?

Because they're thinking about exactly the same thing that you're thinking about. Sex.

There's nothing wrong with it really, because if we never thought about it the human race would cease to exist, no?

But there is a fundamental difference between men and women when it comes to sex though. What do you call a man who manages to bed every celebrity in town? A sex god. A stud. He's admired by other men.

What do you call a woman who sleeps with every Datuk in town? A slut, disrespected by all.

Yes, you got that right, our world is unfair here. They both did the same thing. The only difference is that one has a penis and the other a vagina.

Society isn't too kind on promiscuous women (for reasons that I shall not explicate today) and girls are brought up well trained not to display such behavior in public. The key word here, class, is PUBLIC. Most normal, healthy girls have plenty of fantasies to act out on you, once you bring them somewhere more private.

So that's the next learning point:

Hamlet's Hero lesson #5: Girls want to do all those things to you too, but in private, not in public.

That's exactly why trying to give a girl her first kiss on a crowded train station is not the best idea. Instead, take her somewhere where the world won't see and judge her (unless she's one of those exhibitionist types, then it wouldn't matter anyway, right?).

That's the reason why she pushes you away when you grab her ass in public and why she turns away when you try to kiss her in front of her friends even though she's been giving you signals all night. She wants it, but she's more sensitive to the location that you are. Be kind to her, and don't give her enemies the chance to call her a slut.

Solution: get her to somewhere discreet to get the deed done. Everybody's happy. (:

Yes, I know that some of these things are so blatantly obvious for you (smartass) girls out there, but many guys out there, including myself when I was in secondary school don't know about such matters. We guys are a lot less subtle about these things ya? So stop going at me with a "any 10 year old girl can tell you that" DUH please, because guys really need to hear this. What would I have done for a blog like this when I was stuck with girl problems in secondary school? Hope you guys out there better appreciate it!

Email me if you have relationship problems out there! All names will be kept confidential, and we can discuss various solutions on this blog, hopefully resulting in a good solution!

Don't feel shy to email me at: planar.rebirth(at)gmail(dot)com!

And one more thing, updates for What Women Want will now be rescheduled for Saturdays since my Fridays are often busy.

Till then, take her somewhere private!

Hamlet's Hero out.

Edit: My favorite sex blogger, TheBeautifulKind and the Virgin from vcarded.com commented on my post! The Virgin even went all the way out to write a response to my post about sex and it's place in relationships on his blog! Read it here!

I'm a happy happy guy!

Al-Fakher and Hookas.

Saw this on KennySia's blog and I just had to look it up on the net. (Click here for original post.)

Al-Fakher, flavoured tobacco, or something else?

I keyed in the url, www.alfakher.com into my browser with a smile on my face. And this is what I saw!


Guess that it does actually bring the experience to a whole new level, or does it not?

Still working on What Women Want #3!

Truth really is weirder than fiction...

I spent all night trying to convince myself that NTU was the better business school. Better education there, more friends there, and so I chucked the NUS acceptance letters to the side.

I was 95 percent sure of going to NTU, I told my friends about two hours ago. Then my grandaunt from Singapore called up about faxing over a letter from NUS. I thought that it was just another brochure.

But it's true when they say that truth is indeed weirder than fiction, because even though I was never called for interviews of any sort from NUS, the letter looked like this:

I didn't see it coming!

Did I tell you that truth was weirder than fiction?

And did I mention that if this was a day late I would have missed this opportunity completely because I wouldn't be in time to send in the forms then?

Gotta get those forms all filled up now!

God works in mysterious ways. (:

Love you guys!

P.S. due to this application issue that popped up, out of the blue, What Women Want #3 will be slightly delayed.

Edit: I got NTU's ASEAN offer too! Looks like I was right about going to NTU after all!

Scholarship

Roaring My Way to Nuffnang Wild "Live" Blogging!

"Why the weird title? Nuffnangers going wild? What's happening to this world?

Patience, my tribesmen (and women), and gather round the tribal fireplace. It's time for a story.

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Once upon a time, not so far away, I came home tired from work.

It was yet another backbreaking day, but I managed to bring in a fresh gazelle from the hunt. I was pleased.

After a meaty, satisfying meal of fresh gazelle, I logged onto the internet to see what Nuffnang has in store for me.

And this was what I saw. *ROAR*

Ze-bra? I like!!!

Behold! Nuffnang had just the thing to get me all hungry again! A fresh juicy zebra! And there's news of a Wild 'Live' Blogging Party? And all I had to do was blog about this?

Thoughts of the last Nuffnang Party at the Borneo Baruk Club rushed back into my memory.

Hmmm... Dawn Yang! ROAR!

Yeah, that was one heck of a wild night, and they had a sexy nurse too.

The nurse or the French maid? Come to think of it, why not both?

I like. (:

And I definitely wouldn't want to miss this upcoming party. (Read ALL about it and how to get invites for it here.)

And so, this wild one here put his paws quick to work to come up with a post. A WILD post, so hopefully Nuffnang would be so kind to grant this Glitterati member invites to the upcoming party, and he will be really grateful.

I'll try not to eat Boss Stewie! Promise!
*I only said that I'll try okay? Don't blame me if I can't help myself. (:

And by attending this event, hopefully the wild one will get to meet his Project Trafford teammates too. But that, my friends, is the subject of a whole different story.

Till then, I will be sharpening my claws for the coming wild party. See you there!

... but if you don't, Boss Stewie beware! I won't be a happy puppy!

ROAR!

If you're bored at home... get on YouTube!

And watch these very funny videos! (:

You can try stunts like this. All you need is just a lighter, and erm... yourself?



Yeah, make sure you don't hurt yourself when you try this at home. (:

More "flamethrowers".



I know the first two are really lame but I've been having a couple of difficult days and these videos really helped brighten up my mood, as lame as they are!

Here are acouple more really good YouTube videos! Something for you guys out there who are stuck at home with nothing to do! Hope you like them!

Conservative Conference - Rowan Atkinson Sketch



Personally, I think Rowan Atkinson's genius is so much more apparent when he actually opens his mouth to speak in his many sketches and in series like Blackadder when compared to his silent performance in Mr. Bean.

US Trooper pissing - Captured on Infrared Camera



This is actually quite funny. Amazing to see what the US military does with their really hi-tech (and low tech) equipment on the battlefield. If you know what I mean, that is.

And finally, we have one of the funniest things I ever seen on YouTube. It's quite long, over 20 minutes long, but you don't have to watch the whole clip to see how funny it is. Just watch 5 minutes of it and you'll see what I mean. (:

Presenting....

Super Mario Frustration!



Hope that these clips brightened up your day! Keep hanging on in there!

The grass ain't greener on the other side.

I saw this on PostSecret and it really strikes a chord inside me.

Be kind - for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

I keep hearing how people keep complaining how terrible their lives are and how perfect the lives of some people seem to be. Some people seem to have it all - they're popular; good looking; intelligent; rich and have traveled to all four corners of the globe before they're even twelve.

I used to think why life was so unfair, why some kids seemed to get all the toys and all the attention, but some didn't seem to get their fair share. Why did some kids get to go on expensive trips to Europe and the USA when I never seemed to go anywhere out of the country? Why did some kids get all the branded stuff that my parents never seemed to pamper me with? Was the world just unfair and I was put on the losing end? It sure did seem that way.

As I grew older (and more mature, I hope), I begun to realize the truth - the grass isn't greener on the other side. I started to realize that all of us are but flawed humans, and that everybody, no matter how successful they seem to be on the outside has either struggled really hard to overcome great obstacles, or are still battling their inner demons who we don't know about.

All of us have our own burdens to bear, and it's just plain immature to think that your burdens are heavier than everybody else's.

This is life. People all around are just like you. Just because they're richer, more popular or more physically attractive doesn't mean that they don't have a whole large set of problems to deal with. Life makes sure of that, it just has its own way of making things fair.

We're all struggling to survive in this world, so if you can, I strongly believe in extending a little kindness, a little bit of love to the people around you. Showing how much you love your friends with a big bear hug; making a phone call to talk to a friend whom you've not seen for a while; or even a kind, encouraging word, don't take too much effort, but they make life so much more meaningful and pleasant.

Mother Teresa once said "Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness: Kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile."

I strongly believe in those words. As hard as life seems to be, just by taking the effort to brighten someone else's day you also end up making yours seem so much sweeter.

We can't choose the cards that we're dealt, but we can still play them the best we can. Pass the love around. (:

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The grass can be green... on DJ's side that is! We won the HELP College National Debate yesterday, making it NINE national interschool debating titles in NINE years!

Congrats to Neal, who won best speaker at the finals yesterday, Michelle, Rabin and Ming Ping! I'm so proud of you guys! Continue to come back and help out debaters in the future, kay?

Check out the updated DJ Debate Hall of Fame here!

Maybe the grass really is greener on DJ's side after all...... after we get rid of Datin, that is.

Cheers to all!

What Women Want #2: The Chase

I keep telling the guys I meet not to throw themselves at the women they meet for a very good reason - it makes it too easy for the women. Why is that a bad thing, you ask?

It's simple - women enjoy the chase as much (if not more) then we guys do.

What would you treasure more, something cheap you bought at the store, or a trophy that you had to put in thousands of hours of blood, sweat and tears training to achieve. If you answered the former, you're just weird. Seriously.

Anyway, most of us would treasure something that we've put in a considerable emotional investment much more then something that came to us easily. Similarly, girls would also treasure a guy that they have to work to get much more then one who just jumps into their hands.

Hamlet's Hero lesson #3: A woman would treasure a man that she had to work to get much more than a guy who was just too easy.

Yes, it's a fact - women LOVE the chase. They thrive on it! Why else do you think that romance novels spend so much time elaborating on how the heroine manages to 'tame' the savage male hero?

By dropping subtle hints that you're interested, instead of going all out to declare your love for her at the beginning, it makes the chase so much more exciting. Women in general analyse their relationships with men to the N^th degree and they can indeed pick up subtle hints men drop really well. The only problem is that men usually are nothing but subtle! We're extremely blunt and frank creatures! One way of building attraction is by giving the girl the opportuinity to play 'detective' for a while and let her try to figure out if you're really into her. But don't do this forever okay? Suh Ming would be quick to add here that if you would overdo this and do it too long, you'll end up causing the girl to give up on you and move on to better prospects.

Yes, don't overdo it, but at the same time, don't do without it! Being excessively nice and straightforward at the beginning just totally kills the attraction that all the guessing games are supposed to bring about.

So, don't spoil the whole journey of the hunt for her by being too direct with your love and affection for her by being all too nice at the beginning, just hint at it and keep her guessing. She'll love you for it with you on her mind all night (provided you're not a jerk who's just doing that to lead her on without actually wanting to have a proper relationship with her).

As I said earlier, this game needs to be played, just don't do it for so long that she gives up.

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There still are a lot of things that I need to clarify, but that's what future posts are for right?

This post was originally supposed to be a lot longer, but I've cut this one short as I've got quite a bit on my head right now. Which school to go to, which course to choose... It's all weighing down on me pretty hard right now as I've only got about a week more to decide.

Yeah, it's so bad that I can quite clearly recall a dream where I was debating with a prominent senior politician about how stupid he was, leading a crusade against our dear Datin in school and suing a girl who was going on and on about how I was 5 minutes late for a date in court.

Yes, my dreams can get pretty weird when I'm stressed up and tired.

But before I finish this, I really want to thank all of you who have bothered to comment on my posts. It has been a great joy to read your comments and it's nice to see that this blog has brought about quite a bit of discussion. So please comment! Be it that you think that what I write is total nonsense or the holy writ, I want to hear what you think! (But just be sure to read through my arguments first lah!)

That's it for today,

Hamlet's Hero signing out.

P.S. : Tysern came back from Melaka and he wants the world to know. Check him out!

Just a short announcement.

Due to unforseen circumstances that culminated in Kevin having an uncharacteristically unsatisfactory day yesterday, What Women Want #2 will be slightly delayed.

I'll be out by 10pm today.

Feel free to comment!

Lots of love,

Hamlet's Hero

Edit: Screw it, I'm taking your advice and doing this tomorrow. Gotta nurse my headache. ):

Even in retirement, Mahathir still pisses me off.

I'm pissed off now...

... as pissed off as this dude here.

King Mahathir attempts to kick PM Badawi into the giant pit of death! This is M(ahathir)alaysia!!!

Yes, even in retirement, our ex-PM still can't seem to keep his mouth shut.

Well, for the uninformed, UMNO's no. 1 member has announced his resignation yesterday in an attempt to pressure our current Prime Minister, Abdullah Badawi to step down.

Well, under normal circumstances I wouldn't even care, as I strongly believe that UMNO, along with the other race-based political parties is but a thing of the past and the sooner they go, the better for a more unified Malaysia. But this time was different. In an attempt to bring Badawi down, Mahathir played the race card.

Yes, he played the race card.

The forbidden race card.

The race card. (Originally seen on Mob's Crib, a wonderful political satire blog.)

This is what he said at a gathering of about 1000 people in Johor Bahru:

“If we don’t speak up, if we choose to keep quiet, we will lose our rights and the other races will take over."

- Mahathir Mohammad

He said this while warning the Malays that they stood to lose much in the new political environment where the non-Malays were unafraid to make demands.

As a child, I grew up knowing Mahathir as the man who promoted the idea of a "Bangsa Malaysia" (Malaysian race) and the "semangat muhibbah". I respected him as a great leader who was able to see beyond religion, race, to see us as who we are - Malaysians.

I don't have a modicum of respect left for this former leader of ours anymore after hearing his recent statements which make him in my eyes a big, old, hypocrite.

What happened to racial intergration? What's the point of spending Rm 2.37 billion on Khidmat Negara (National Service) which is supposed to foster racial integration, when our leaders are hell bent on dividing us Malaysians based on race? Is that any different from the divide and rule policies that the British used to control us in the past? I definitely don't think so.

And they're not even willing to spend money for compulsory health screenings for NS trainees saying that it's a waste of money as only a small percentage of NS trainees have died.

How many more must die till we're willing to do something about it?

Death camp or not, you tell me.

If our politicians believe that health checks are a waste of money, why don't they try telling the family members of the 16 deceased NS trainees that it was not worth the money looking after their loved one's health. Can any amount of money that the government can pay get them back? Definitely not. Not like they seem to care anyway. Anyway, I digress.

My point is that the promotion of racial unity will only be stunted if our leaders are inconsistent with their views on racial unity. And this is something that we just cannot accept in this very multiracial country.

Mahathir wouldn't have just stopped there, right? You're absolutely right. His 82 year old mouth can just keep going on and on (and on).

Got this off Malaysia Today:

Dr Mahathir asked the audience whether anyone of them had read the memorandum forwarded by the Hindu Rights Action Force (Hindraf) to the government. “What does it say? Malaysia for Malaysians! This is the reality of the present situation. If we do not speak up, if we choose to keep quiet, we will lose our rights and the other races will take over. When that happens, it will be like Singapore. Do you think we will still have control?” he pondered.

-Malaysia Today, Desperate Dr. M Plays the Race Card.

What's wrong with Malaysia for Malaysians? Wasn't that like his whole tagline, promising us that we'll usher in a whole new age of unity, peace and development in the year 2020? What happened to that dream that we were taught about when we were still back in school?

What's wrong with a multiracial leadership for a multiracial country here? Why all this paranoia over who's dominant and what not? I believe if our sedition act has to be put to use, it would be best put to use in cases like this, where a senior politician who very well knows what he's saying (unless the rumors that he's gone senile prove to be true) is deliberately playing one race against another just to get rid of PM Badawi.

But did you have to go THAT far?

And if we take a look at our (very dear) sedition act once again,

Under section 3(1), those acts defined as having a seditious tendency are acts with a tendency:

(a) to bring into hatred or contempt or to excite disaffection against any Ruler or against any Government;

(b) to excite the subjects of the Ruler or the inhabitants of any territory governed by any government to attempt to procure in the territory of the Ruler or governed by the Government, the alteration, otherwise than by lawful means, of any matter as by law established;

(c) to bring into hatred or contempt or to excite disaffection against the administration of justice in Malaysia or in any State;

(d) to raise discontent or disaffection amongst the subjects of the Yang di-Pertuan Agong or of the Ruler of any State or amongst the inhabitants of Malaysia or of any State;

(e) to promote feelings of ill-will and hostility between different races or classes of the population of Malaysia; or

(f) to question any matter, right, status, position, privilege, sovereignty or prerogative established or protected by the provisions of part III of the Federal constitution or Article 152, 153 or 181 of the Federal Constitution.

It seems that dear Dr. M. here seems to be promoting feelings of ill-will and hostility between different races or classes of the population of Malaysia through his racial politics, ain't he. Unless Malaysia so Boleh until deliberately sowing paranoia among Malays about other races somehow isn't tantamount to promoting ill-will and hostility. Should Mahathir Mohammad be rightly charged with sedition? You tell me.

But I sure hope so, you racist!

In our 50 plus years of independence, we Malaysians have come a long way in shedding racial and religious boundaries in coming together as what we are - Malaysians.

I'm just hoping that some old geezer doesn't come about, waving his shriveled "keris" around and spoil it all for us. I'm really hoping so hard.

I hope you guys out there speak out against inciting racial hatred in politics too, because if this continues to happen, we would be just taking one giant step backwards in our struggle towards racial unity.

More thoughts on 'nice' guys...

Should you pay for the date?

Many of my readers may disagree with this, but I do not believe in the guy paying for the first date. Even though we live in an age where gender equality is something given, girls just shamelessly argue that they should be paid for just because it is the gentlemanly thing to do.

Society once thought that women were inferior in society. Should we treat women like dirt just because people think that it's the thing to do? No, thank you. I just love my women way too much and would very much rather appeal to my faculties of rational thought when I make decisions. And I would like my women to do the same (unless you're that bloke who only dates airheads).

Women who believe that gender equality is their right while play the 'but I'm a girl' card whenever it helps you get a free meal are being completely inconsistent with the image of women being equal to men, don't you think?

It's not a hard and fast rule, but I just I don't believe in paying for the first date because I don't believe in giving women (and people in general) things that they have not earned yet.

Tell me, which would make a girl feel more that you're dating her just because of her looks?

1. Paying for her meal and movie ticket on the first date like a obedient puppy for no apparent reason other than the fact that everyone else is doing it (and that your mother told you to).

or...

2. Going dutch on meals until you know that the girl is a good and reliable friend that deserves a treat?

I'm not saying that you should be a rude person who refuses to help your date out should she be lacking sufficient money to pay for her meal, but I believe that one should not be so eager to throw himself blindly at someone he doesn't even know well.

Immediately assuming that the girl is some weak person who is so ill prepared that she came out to dinner without any money to pay for her own dinner is just degrading I tell you. I love my women, and I strongly believe in gender equality, but I also equally strongly believe that women have to first respect themselves before they can expect us men to respect them.

Another reason why I do not believe in paying for the first date is that it presents the guy as needy and insecure. If you ask me, the whole paying for a girl's meal thing just reeks of the stench of prostitution somehow. You're actually paying a girl to spend time with you! Doesn't that sound a little whorey somehow?

I would much rather have a girl spend time with me because I'm an interesting person and she genuinely wants to spend time with me rather than PAY a girl to spend an evening with me. I would rather have a girl first prove her worth to me as a friend first, before I feel that she would deserve any extra special attention from me.

So unless you are so boring and disgusting that no girl would want to spend time with you, then I guess you have no choice but to step up and foot the bill.

I however, would gladly do otherwise.

What do you guys think?

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On an unrelated note, I didn't get into NUS's law faculty. Yeah, I saw it coming as I wasn't even called in for an interview, but now it's official. I got provisional acceptance into the business school instead. Guess that really ain't so bad, but the irritating thing is that I still have no news from SMU (Singapore Management University) yet, making it impossible for me to come up with a final decision. Still hoping that I make the cut for law in SMU.

Oh well, guess that one can only pray for the best and let fate take it's course. I'm still sure I'll work out right, somehow.

And I better find time to blog about all the (stupid) things that have been coming out of Mahathir's mouth (hope this too small for him to read). (:

Static Friction

Today I want to talk about static friction. Yes, Kevin will be a nerd today (yes I know, Nayan!) and revisit his A-level Physics for a good reason.

First up, what is static friction?

Static friction refers to the frictional forces opposing the motion of an object at rest. What's special about static friction is that its greater then kinetic friction, which is the friction acts on the object when it is actually moving.

In simpler terms, an object experiences less friction when it is actually moving, compared to the friction that you would have to overcome in order to make it begin to move.

The science of friction.

That's the reason why you require less force exerted to keep a moving cardboard box in motion as compared to the force required to make a stationary box move.

Why all this physics talk? Cause I have just recently discovered the greatest source of static friction the world has ever seen - the enormous static friction between my bum and my very comfy chair. Must.... overcome..... FRICTIONAL FORCES and go EXERCISE!

A well of enormous friction. It's almost magnetic!

I've also realized that this whole concept of static friction also carries on into other things in life. I can be quite a procrastinator but I realized that after you actually make yourself do something that you've been putting off, your momentum makes it so much easier to keep going.

A strategy to overcome procrastination that I have found quite useful is to push yourself into taking the first step and committing yourself to that first 10 minutes of an activity that you have been putting away. This helps you overcome the static friction that's holding you back from whatever you should be doing, be it completing an assignment or working out.

I've recently tried this and it really has helped me work out those (not so forgotten) abs more these days, and I hope that it benefits you guys too!

Just press through the first few minutes whenever you feel like procrastinating!

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On a different note, I really hope that you guys enjoyed the first installment of What Women Want! Will come up with an update this coming Friday, so people, STAY TUNED for more!

What Women Want #1: It's definitely not the 'nice guy'.

When I was back in secondary school, this was how I thought it worked.

Guy fancies girl, so guy should be a the nice guy that girls keep talking about - the guy who buys them big fluffy bears with all their pocket money; the guy that is absolutely loyal to her and looks at no other girls. Girl should fall in love with such a nice guy...... right? But unfortunately (for me at least), it didn't seem to be working this way, somehow.

When I came back to school to teach earlier this year, I saw that exact same thing happening ALL OVER AGAIN. It was like reliving a nightmare, all over again. I knew I had to do something about it.

So for today, class, we'll look at why being the 'nice guy' wouldn't be so nice for your love life.

Lets see what the stereotypical 'nice guy' does. He's too willing to part with his money for the girl that he fancies, gives in to all her wants and whims, and is willing to stop looking at all the other girls around just because there happens to be one girl who talks to him a teeny bit more than the others.

Now guys, I know that we have been all brought up and told that we have to be gentlemen, and we have to be nice to girls because that's what they want. But we forget a very important fact - most of the time, you're not supposed to believe what women tell you anyway.

Hamlet's Hero lesson #1: Women don't mean what they say most of the time.

Yes, for all you naive guys (and girls who like girls) out there, females are notorious for not giving away the truth easily. She says shes happy with the gifts you give her, but if what she says is not consistent with her body language and you just got to call her bluff. She says that shes happy with you going out with the guys on soccer night but we all know that shes going to sulk big time when we come back, right? Cause if you don't you need the above line hammered into your thick skull.

Yes, the thing is that although women keep going on and on about how they want guys to be 'nice' and all, spending all their money on gifts for them and being the absolute center of a man's life, they're not telling you the whole truth.

The truth is that all the girls you know probably forgot to tell you one thing when you asked them what they wanted in a man they liked - the sexual tension and attraction that sends them swooning. Yes, that's what they really want, but I like to think that girls intentionally left that bit out so that they get free dinner dates every now and then from a average Joe with zero knowledge about women. Who wouldn't want to be pampered ya? But that's just not the way to play the game.

Think about it, would any of the things that a typical 'nice guy' does magically make a woman desire you? Paying for a girl's dinner and buying her gifts wouldn't make her magically fall in love with you if that spark isn't there, and if you overdo it, quite the opposite happens - it makes the guy look like a desperate stalker. Don't you just have to agree with this, girls?

The thing that most guys fail to see is that if you manage to cause the girl in question to become attracted to you, you won't have to burn your pockets or cut out all your other options to get the girl you're after because she'll fall for you anyway, because you're one hell of an attractive person, not because you think you suck so much that you have to PAY for every single thing so that the POOR, POOR girl will spend an evening with you. And just think about it, that sorta behavior would just make the girl feel like social escort every time she goes out with you, a really badly paid one. And that's just not sexy behavior that's gonna cause a girl to become attracted to you (unless shes the one that never EVER got attention until you came along, but those usually aren't my type. If they're yours, stop reading and continue what you're doing cause you'll be staying well outta my way anyway).

You know whats worse than guys who start off on the wrong foot by trying to be the 'nice' guy? Guys thinking that they're being the most charming guy in the world by trying to be 'super' nice. Yes, I know it's a kiasu world we live in but it just doesn't work that way! Just think about it, if niceness was what causes people to become attracted to another person, Mother Teresa would like be one of the most attractive babes on the planet (but yeah guess she can be in spirit lah...)! It just doesn't work that way, get it?

So that's lesson number 2.

Hamlet's Hero lesson #2: Being 'nice' does not magically make girls swoon and fall in love with you.

Damn, if I only figured this out in secondary school I wouldn't have wasted so much time...... and so much opportunity. But guess it was a lesson well learnt.

Well, don't sue me for plagarism, but for a girl's point of view, this is how Le Raine from http://leraine.blogspot.com put it:

The nice guy usually ends up eagerly offering favours to the girl, putting off his own needs to ensure that the girl is happy. This includes squandering a mind-blowing amount of cash to swamp the girl with material things, offering to complete her 6-month project, skipping his dinner to fix her choked toiletbowl so that she can go out on her hot date, etc. Her wish is the guy's mission in life, and he will never learn to say no to her. The girl, of course, will be appreciative, but more often than not she doesn't automatically fall at the guy's feet in undisguised adoration (which, of course, is exactly what the guy is hoping for). There can be 3 outcomes, actually.

1) The girl notices that the nice guy is very sweet and starts noticing him. She shyly offers herself to him and they get married in a meadow with scattered flower petals everywhere and little birds and rabbits scampering about. They eventually have two perfect blond-haired, blue-eyed children, and they will adopt Bambi as a pet.

2) The girl notices that the nice guy is very sweet and labels him as 'reliable friend'. She will now not risk anything to lose this gem as someone who will go out his way to help her.

3) The girl notices that the nice guy is very sweet and starts to suspect that he likes her. When her suspicions are confirmed, she tries to let the nice guy down politely because she doesn't want to hurt such a nice guy. She makes up all sorts of excuses, including having a boyfriend, having not gotten over an ex-boyfriend, having feelings for someone else, needing to concentrate on her studies/career, being a lesbian, etc.

Well, life's not Disney World right, so the only two reasonable outcomes are outcome 2 &3 (you only get outcome 1 if you're Brad Pitt or something, and you wouldn't be reading this if you were). However it goes, the harder the guy tries to woo the girl by being a 'nice' guy, the more she either:

1. Doesn't want risk losing him as her reliable friend therefore dismissing all his 'nice' behavior as part of who he is - a 'nice' guy. Therefore, all his effort in wooing the girl is nullified as he gives her even more reason to keep him as just another nice guy she knows. Mission failed.

2. He ends up looking like a psycho stalker and she gets a restraining order on him. Not good either. Fail.

See, being a nice guy does not only NOT help make a girl attracted towards you, but overdoing it can cause pretty serious consequences! So I don't get it when guys keep doing this (or more likely, OVERDOING this!)!

So if being the 'nice' guy is not the right thing to do, what is? You just got to turn on the attraction, or end up with the dreaded "lets just be friends". You don't want to get there, trust me.

So if you want to find out more about What Women Want, stay tuned for the next installment of this series next Friday! I'm gonna keep writing about what women want for as long as I can and I really hope that you guys out there found this useful.

Till then, stop being the 'nice' guy, be the attractive guy.

Hamlet's Hero signing off.

Edit: Something just happened to me that's so amazing but it really makes me wonder if I really understand women. Guess they never stop amazing me. Thanks for restoring my faith in women, dear.

Edit again: WHOOPS! Junyi! :D

Broken in.

Yes, when I entered the office this morning, I discovered that the electronic door was ajar, held open by a office chair. I thought the air conditioner broke down, but I walked in only to see my desk mysteriously empty. What happened to my monitor?

My ransacked table. Notice the missing computer. Damn.

Yes, you got that right, we've just been the victim of a break in. The very first break in that I'm directly experiencing and whose effects i'm directly feeling.

The burglars broke through the wooden door, disarmed the magnetic door somehow and went for the money. ): We lost like RM1000 in petty cash and advertising money but the most significant thing that we lost was that computer that I did all my work on.

Yes, the computer is gone and all the payment records, letters and databased listings are all stored there. And guess who has to get that all back on track again?

Damn those burglars.

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Anyway, those burglars aren't going to get me down, because I'm so excited about my upcoming project on Hamlet's Hero, aren't you?

I know you are. (:


Don't miss it coming out this Friday!

Love doctor, signing out.

Movie Review By The Awesome Maria 'Hamlet' Gimik - Harold and Kumar: Escape From Guantanamo Bay

Movie Review By The Awesome Maria 'Hamlet' Gimik!

Warning: Spoilers may appear and might seriously piss you off. Then again, I always seem to have a penchant for pissing people off. It's a gift endowed to me.

So after 7 years of friendship, a mate of mine finally realized what an amazing friend I am and decided to give me free passes (and FOOD) to the latest 'Harold & Kumar: Escape from Guantanamo Bay'. And I had to wait 7 years for this. Sheesh.

The movie, how should I put this, reflects upon the general intellectual wavelengths of the Generation Y. 'Harold & Kumar' can be described as the modern version of the quintessential classic that is 'Catcher in the Rye'........

Nahhhhhhh. Who am I kidding.

Basically, if you do not like slapstick, if you frown upon the frequent distasteful sexual and toilet humour, if you do not appreciate racist and political jokes, DO NOT watch it.

As for me, I absolutely enjoyed it!

Harold falls for this chick, Maria (Yes, I know, many hot women are named Maria, just like yours truly), and learns that she has flewn off to Amsterdam. Certain that Maria is his one true love, he decides to grab the next flight to Amsterdam, bringing Kumar along, to profess his devotion to her. Kumar's just there for all the legal weed. Yes, I like his style.

However, Kumar, the genius, brings along a smokeless bong into the plane and decides to smoke weed ON the plane too. A paranoid white old woman sees this and shouts 'TERRORIST!'. A trippy Kumar goes 'Relax man, it's just a bong'. The passengers all go 'OH MY GOD. BOMB!'

(Here, I'm laughing cos it's so freaking hilarious)

So here, Harold & Kumar gets locked up in Guantanamo Bay with all the other 'terrorists'. They eventually escape. How they escape you say? Well, I won't say cos I know for a fact Kevin's blog is patronized by numerous young kids. And I am not one to pollute innocence.

My favourite dialogue picked from the movie (from memory la):

Terrorist: 'We 'terrorists' would not exist if your government would not do what they are doing to other nations now. You stupid americans would know that if you weren't always eating your stupid donuts!'

Kumar: 'F*** YOU! DONUTS ARE AWESOME!'

HAHAHAHA. OH god. That cracks me up. Totally kills Maria! Hahaha.

So anyway, watch it if you're above 18 and if you're looking for spastic humour (which is totally my kinda thing).
If you're Malaysian, like my dearest Kevin, don't even hope to catch it in Malaysian cinemas. Come to Singapore, or... do what you guys do best. And no, it isn't selling us water and fluctuating the prices very so often, likening it to Britney's weight changes. It's the OTHER thing Malaysia is good at. The OTHER thing.

Music Tag!

Was tagged by Chia Wei and was bored, so here it goes!

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The Rules:

1. Put your music player on shuffle.
2. Press forward for each question.
3. Use the song title as the answer to the question even if it doesn't make sense.
4. With the answers, give your own comments on how they relate to the questions.

Let's GO!!!

1. How are you feeling today?
My Humps - Black Eyed Peas
Nah, not feeling particularly in 'that' mood. (: (I know it's hard to believe but it's true, I'm a saint at heart)

2. Will you get far in life?
Stronger - Kanye West
Yeah, I'm gonna keep getting harder, better, faster, stronger baby!

3. What's your best friend's theme song?
Crawling Back To You - Backstreet Boys
This so reminds me to Stef who is still far away at the moment. Come back soon girl!

4. What is the story of your life?
Help! - The Beatles
Well, Help! also happens to be the name of a really cool movie that the Beatles, four really groovy friends came up with. (: Friends make the world go round, ya?

5. What was high school like?
Back For Good - Take That
Yeah, high school was good, and I had a chance to go back to it as a teacher and a debate coach. Coming back has put DJ back in my heart, for good.

6. How can you get ahead with life?
Shoulda - Hinder
I shoulda just DO IT, and not let anything hinder me!

7. What’s the best thing about your friends?
Who Knows - Avril Lavigne
Who knows? They show me something new and special about each and every one of them each passing day!

8. Describe your grandparents.
Love Sick Stomach Ache (Sugar Coated Accident) - Bowling For Soup
Hahahah! Oh well, would be really cool to find out that my grandparents were really very loving. Maybe that's why their grandson turned out like this - a hopeless romantic.

9. How's your life going?
Norwegian Wood (The Bird has Flown) - The Beatles
Well, Norwegian Wood is also the name of one of my favourite novels from Haruki Murakami. I guess I don't know what the future holds, I really don't. But I'm praying for the best.

10. What will be played at my funeral?
In Pieces - Linkin Park
Hahahha! I hope I won't be in pieces then. But then again, it wouldn't really matter then, would it?

11. Will you have a happy life?
The Little Things - Colbie Caillat
Anyone will have a happy life if they learn how to appreciate the little things in life, and I'm really proud that I do. (:

12. What do your friends really think of you?
Makes Me Wonder - Maroon 5
Guess I don't know either. Guess I don't really care too, cause what matters most is that I'm being the best friend to them that I can be. That's what matters.

13. How can you make yourself happy?
Dancing In the Moonlight - A Walk to Remember OST
YES! I love the night! Was just telling Soph how much I like the night-time! The air's so cool and refreshing, and the soft moon light is lovely.

14. What should you do with your life?
No Bravery - James Blunt
I should be less reckless? But ain't that the reason for life itself - taking chances?

15. Will you ever have children?
Yesterday - The Beatles
Hmmmmm? I probably would if I could...

16. What does your mom think of you?
When I Come Around - Green Day
Hey! I'm not like out unconscious most of the time okay!

17. What is your deep, dark secret?
Gotta Tell You - Samantha Mumba
Hahah, not telling you!

18. What is your enemy's theme song?
On The Run - Pink Floyd
Hahah! Run, enemy, RUN! But then again, I really hope I don't have enemies to begin with. I really don't hate any of you guys out there, REALLY!

19. Whats your personality like?
一路向北 (One Road North) - Jay Chow
One track minded? Hmmmm... not really, I'm not sure of this one.

20. What will be played at your wedding?
Seniorita - Justin Timberlake
Whatever it is, I'll be something sexy and meaningful at the same time. Yeah.

Guess I'm actually done with this tag after all! Hope you enjoy doing it as much as I did!

I am tagging:

Yi Ting
Ern Sheong
Suh Ming
Sophiee
Roger

Happy completing this tag!

I'm Empty.

If there's one song I seem to hear all the time on Hitz FM these days, it's this.

Empty - The Click Five


It just strikes a chord with something deep inside me, and I keep putting it on repeat, maybe because I once felt so empty inside. But somehow, I feel stronger now, like I have something deep inside me that makes me less hollow, and more fulfilled.

Guess they were right, what that doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. And I definitely am.

Thanks for the memories.

Hope that you guys enjoy this song as much as I do!

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And on an unrelated note, I'm coming up with a series of posts on love and relationships which will be debuting on this Friday. I'll be a weekly thing, and dear readers, you can expect a new one every Friday.

I really feel that with what I know now, I would have been so much more successful with relationships back in secondary school, and I hope that whatever I share would be able to help you readers, whatever stage you may be at in life.

So hope you'll enjoy the very first installment of "What Women Want" this Friday!

What do women really want?

Yeah, it's all about what women really want, so stay tuned!

Explaining my absence.

Yes readers, I know I have suddenly disappeared from the blogosphere for quite some time now, since Monday, because of my longer working hours.

It's really been a long week and this is how I spent it:


1. Working (Duh!)

The desk where I work.

Yeah, I'm an administration assistant at Summerhill Realty so that means that I have to:

• Be in the office early to get the office sorted out before all the real estate negotiators (agents), start coming in.
  
• Yes, I get to use the computer, but not so much to blog, but for databasing. I'm made to go through the property listings that the negotiators pass to me and key the data into the Summerhill computer database. This is really, REALLY time consuming. The first few days, the load was really, REALLY great. I literally had to sort through a MOUNTAIN of forms and key them in, one by one into the system. AND WHEN YOU KEY IN THE DATA YOU HAVE TO DO IT IN CAPS, CAUSE THE SYSTEM CAN ONLY UNDERSTAND CAPS, AND NOTHING ELSE BUT CAPS. Thank God that I got through that gigantic stack already and I have less data entry to do these days.
  
• Being an office administration assistant also means that I am in charge of the filing of all the petty documents around the office. EVERYTHING is filed in this office, ranging from advertisement invoices to incoming faxes. Yes, we also have to file up the Dell computer advertisements that come in through the fax! But the worst was still the Star Advertisement invoices. I had to go through a stack of invoices about half as high as your average PC casing, cross check with the different agent's files to see if they have been charged accordingly, AND then file ALL THOSE INVOICES IN DESCENDING ORDER! If you know me, you would know that I hate paperwork and was never EVER able to file my homework up when I was back in school. All my papers were always missing because I was too lazy to file them up. Guess this is paperwork karma.
• Be the de facto telephone receptionist. Yes, I have to go "Good morning/afternoon, Summerhill Realty..." in my saccharine sweet voice every time someone calls. Yes, its really SO sweet that one lady commented "wah, your voice very ho thia!" (well that means 'nice sounding' in Hokkien) and made me go all "kam siah, kam siah" ( thank you in Hokkien)!
• Type and print stuff. Yeah, I'm the guy that everyone goes to when they want a letter or some forms printed. I get to play around with the photocopier a lot too. Well, on the bright side, I guess I got better with Excel and Word... or maybe not.
• Also double up as tech support. I'm the youngest guy there so (the older folks) approach me with tech support issues from time to time. I'll gladly teach anyone who wants to sort their contacts on Gmail or how to use their new laptop anytime. (: Just glad that I can help.
• LISTEN TO LIGHT FM. Yes, the radio is RIGHT BEHIND ME, so I really can't help but listen to James Blunt crooning "I'll carry you home" for the 213,231,453th time! That pretty much explains why I blast Hitz FM on high whenever I have the chance to in my Kelisa.
  

Told ya, Soph. (:

Yeah that's pretty much everything I do as an administration assistant. But the job's not too bad, cause I get to learn all about real estate, and as Donald Trump says, that's where the money is. So I guess the opportunity to learn all about tenancy agreements and S&P's can't be a bad thing ya?


2. Trying to write about the Raja Petra sedition case.

RPK takes the sedition case on!

Yes, I was trying to blog about that ALL week, and I have even done extensive (well, at least I think it is) research on Malaysia's sedition laws so that I can write a thorough critique of the whole case.... but I guess that it's been a little too long since my last argumentative essay! So there goes the critique... But oh well, I now know what interalia and mens rea mean now! (: I'll make a good law student lar, SMU! Can ya please please offer me law?

Anyway, back to the Raja Petra sedition case, Raja Petra (editor of www.malaysia-today.net) is being investigated under our sedition act for an article he wrote on his blog, "Let's send the Altantuya murderers to hell". Well, read about it here.

Now, let us take a quick look at Malaysia's sedition act so that we can discuss it lah.

Under section 3(1), those acts defined as having a seditious tendency are acts with a tendency:

(a) to bring into hatred or contempt or to excite disaffection against any Ruler or against any Government;

(b) to excite the subjects of the Ruler or the inhabitants of any territory governed by any government to attempt to procure in the territory of the Ruler or governed by the Government, the alteration, otherwise than by lawful means, of any matter as by law established;

(c) to bring into hatred or contempt or to excite disaffection against the administration of justice in Malaysia or in any State;

(d) to raise discontent or disaffection amongst the subjects of the Yang di-Pertuan Agong or of the Ruler of any State or amongst the inhabitants of Malaysia or of any State;

(e) to promote feelings of ill-will and hostility between different races or classes of the population of Malaysia; or

(f) to question any matter, right, status, position, privilege, sovereignty or prerogative established or protected by the provisions of part III of the Federal constitution or Article 152, 153 or 181 of the Federal Constitution.

It really pisses me off that we are still living in a society where we still cannot tolerate alternative views, that's what this whole act is about. Only support expression of opinion when it's YOUR opinion that others are expressing? That sounds real Stalinist to me, really. That must really make mother Russia proud.

Even if our dear sedition act is not the archaic dinosaur that everyone thinks it is, what pisses me off even more is that the sedition act is only used when a personality comes up with words that offend a high ranking member of our dear government, but never when those very same high ranking officials do something to promote feelings of ill-will and hostility between different races of the population of Malaysia. It's either that its somehow enshrined in our constitution that the Chinese and Indians in Malaysia are not part of the population of Malaysia, or that something is SERIOUSLY wrong with our judiciary system.

Yes, somehow when a high ranking member of our government goes up and wields a weapon in public and incites hatred, it's okay, but when a blogger writes about bringing those responsible for a murder trial to justice, it's sedition. Our dear politicians seem to be so immune that the dear person who was fooling with a weapon in public didn't even get charged for brandishing a weapon in public. Where is the sense in all this? Guess it rocks to be a member of our very dear government.

Guess we need someone to stand up to this injustice. Go RPK!

I just hope that this case sheds light on the gaping flaws within our judiciary system. Let justice prevail!

DISCLAIMER: And let me stress once again that these are just some of my humble observations which are not in any way meant to incite hatred against any party but to just very politely point out how funnily the judiciary system always seems to side the dear government in Malaysia. So, please don't sue me for sedition, dear government.


3. Guest starring on kennysia.com
Notice anything familiar about this picture?


Anything?

Cause like Tysern put it, those stinky pajamas sure look really familiar...

... and Lim Kit Siang's body ain't as hot as that one...!

...!!!

Hey, that's us, Tysern, Ee Fei, Chongxian and I, at the Nuffnang pajama party!


Guess I can recognize those smelly pajamas from anywhere!
But why Lim Kit Siang? Oh well, I shouldn't be complaining, at least it wasn't Karpal Singh!
*Read Kenny's post here!

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Oh well, it really has been a busy week but I hope to keep posting regularly, so you readers, hang on in there!

To all mothers out there, Hamlet's Hero wishes you a very Happy Mother's Day to you! Make sure you do something special for your mother whenever you can, she very well deserves it!

Old school.

Hamlet's hero, signing off.

Office Updates

"I'm trying to get Benjamin from Star Classifieds to settle some invoicing matters but the automated-telephone-answering-system keeps going "our tele-agents are currently busy at the moment, please hold on..." and Light FM keeps playing over the telephone."

A day in my life working at Summerhill Realty in Sunway Mas commercial center.

And that's also a good example how Light FM is just everywhere these days! Please, I get enough Light FM at home, in the car, and in the office already! Why is Light FM everywhere!? Including the telephone! Listening to one too many Lobo songs (which my dad loves to death) can indeed drive you mad, trust me.

Anyway, I digress. Now time for some updates on my (very interesting) life in point form:

1. I got accepted into Nanyang Business School, NTU.
I don't mean to brag, but I expected this coming. Guess my 5 minute interview really did turn out well. However, I'm still weighing my options. It's really unlikely right now, but I'm still praying that I suddenly receive a letter from NUS law school. I'm really not sure if I should still go down to study in Singapore if I don't get law there. Is it really worth studying something other than law there when I can probably get into HELP University College's law school without too much trouble. And yeah, further excerbating the Singapore problem is that I am yet to hear from any of the scholarships that I have applied for. ): Guess that I'll have to start thinking about how to finance my studies in Singapore, real soon. Oh well, hope that it all works out right.

2. I'm working as an admin assistant at Summerhill Realty.
Yeah, since I have been relieved of my duties as a debate coach, I'm currently working at Summerhill Realty doing office work. Siew Ho was so kind to recommend me for the job. So here I am, typing this post at Jun Wei's mom, Michelle's office in Sunway Mas commercial centre. Work here has been pretty okay and I have been preparing documents, sorting files and all sorts of office work here since I started work last Friday. I never really liked office work, but oh well, guess its a new experience right?

3. I'm missing my debaters and students so badly now!
Yeah, working in an office means that I'm sitting down sorting stuff and using the computer most of the time. I miss all the fun times we've had together la... all the crazy times in class, my extended debate discussion sessions, and just hanging out in the teacher's room with Tysern, Chongxian and Patrick. My debaters too, it was such a great time we all spent together even though it was so stressful. It just seems so weird coming to work each day and not seeing the faces that I've been seeing everyday for the past 1 and a half months or so. Miss all of you guys so much. *puts on sad face* We really must all meet up soon, and that includes all of my students too. I know I was going on about how we must all meet up and party, and we'll do that after your exams kay? My house is open to you guys, so till then, study hard kay?

4. I need to start working out again!
Debate stress and long hours of office work, is bad for ab-formation, trust me. ):
Gotta start working out hard again the way I used too. A flat tummy is not enough, gotta get those abs out somehow. I can do it! Haih, but I guess I need more motivation somehow. Any ideas anyone?

5. I'm teaching tuition!
I'm helping Rachel out with her chemistry so I've been hitting the form 4 chemistry books recently. Anyone else need help with their chemistry? Or maybe even physics? I'll love to help you guys catch up after my office hours. Hope my chemistry didn't deteriorate too much!

Guess that's it for today. Till then, take care people!

Team, you've done us proud.

The SMKDJ Wira Debate Team 2008

Daryl, Keefe, Calvin, Jayshendra, Kevin
Rachel, Zafirah, Sophia
(and Puan Koh and Puan Tan)

Letting go of something you love is the hardest thing to do. And as I have come to learn and grow with this team of mine, saying goodbye is definitely difficult.

If you have not heard already, our team gave it their very best at Kuala Selangor and we came up in 2nd place in the state finals. I know I told this team that we'll go all the way, and even though the road may have seemed to end here, they did indeed go all the way. Even though the final decision was ruled against our favour, the way they spoke so confidently and eloquently made me feel so proud. If they were lousy up there, if they did not speak and argue the way that they were taught to, I would have failed my duty as a coach, but at the finals, they were up there on the stage, being the debaters that I knew that they could be. What more can a humble coach ask for?

We've come a really long way in our one and a half months together. Guess time really does fly when you're having fun, or as Keefe puts it, it all passed by in a blink of an eye. *BLINKS*

We stressed over debate definitions....

We stayed up late into the night doing our speeches....

We fought over petty issues.

We raised our voices at each other....

....but we also....

Encouraged each other on....

Drilled points into each other's heads....

Camwhored together!

But the most important thing was that through thick or thin, we stayed together. I said it once before and I'll say it again - great friendships were forged in the fires of the Bilik Tayangan, that has been true each passing year, and this year was no exception.

In the quarantine room!

I'm just so proud that we gave this our very best shot, working hard on our cases till the very end, and that we truly have no room for regrets.

It was a true honour to coach this wonderfully diverse team and I just hope that you guys realize that you have so much potential within each and every one of you. In our one and a half months together, we have all grown so much as a team. We not only learned about gauges and definition debates, but we also learnt the more important lesson - how to work together as a team.

Even I was just the coach for this debate, the journey sure wasn't easy. It was many late nights helping the debaters with their speeches, staying up till the wee hours of the morning editing the scripts they submitted, and even ending up dreaming about various stands in bed. Yes, I quite literally had debate nightmares. Yes, quite a number of times I woke up in the morning to some debate dream thinking that we got our stands and points all wrong!

Sophia and Keefe going through their speeches just before the debate.

But we pulled through, debate after debate all the people who showed their support, John, Andrew, Marc my friends and students really made me remember what debate was all about - supporting each other as we grew together as speakers and friends.

And even though my standards were so high, in the end, I am proud to say that my debaters finally put it all together and put a stellar showing in the state level Wira debate championships. The amazing thing is that they're not even in form 5 yet, and they're already performing so well, who knows what they can achieve next year?

Keep working hard team! Keep giving it your best and you will reap the fruits of your labour soon! I'm so proud of every single one of you in light of how much all of you have grown as debaters, but I'm even more proud of the fact that I can call each and every one of you my dear, dear friends.

(:


Love all of you guys so much!

Our journey.

We were so close, but what a journey we had.

If you have not heard already, our team gave it their very best at Kuala Selangor and we came up in 2nd place in the state finals.

I'll come up with a post soon, but the debaters have already wrote so poignantly about our journey I recommend that you read these accounts first:

Sophia
Daryl
Zafirah
Calvin
Rachel

We gave it our best and we have no room for regrets. I'm so proud of you, team!

The full post will come soon, take care team!