What Women Want #2: The Chase

I keep telling the guys I meet not to throw themselves at the women they meet for a very good reason - it makes it too easy for the women. Why is that a bad thing, you ask?

It's simple - women enjoy the chase as much (if not more) then we guys do.

What would you treasure more, something cheap you bought at the store, or a trophy that you had to put in thousands of hours of blood, sweat and tears training to achieve. If you answered the former, you're just weird. Seriously.

Anyway, most of us would treasure something that we've put in a considerable emotional investment much more then something that came to us easily. Similarly, girls would also treasure a guy that they have to work to get much more then one who just jumps into their hands.

Hamlet's Hero lesson #3: A woman would treasure a man that she had to work to get much more than a guy who was just too easy.

Yes, it's a fact - women LOVE the chase. They thrive on it! Why else do you think that romance novels spend so much time elaborating on how the heroine manages to 'tame' the savage male hero?

By dropping subtle hints that you're interested, instead of going all out to declare your love for her at the beginning, it makes the chase so much more exciting. Women in general analyse their relationships with men to the N^th degree and they can indeed pick up subtle hints men drop really well. The only problem is that men usually are nothing but subtle! We're extremely blunt and frank creatures! One way of building attraction is by giving the girl the opportuinity to play 'detective' for a while and let her try to figure out if you're really into her. But don't do this forever okay? Suh Ming would be quick to add here that if you would overdo this and do it too long, you'll end up causing the girl to give up on you and move on to better prospects.

Yes, don't overdo it, but at the same time, don't do without it! Being excessively nice and straightforward at the beginning just totally kills the attraction that all the guessing games are supposed to bring about.

So, don't spoil the whole journey of the hunt for her by being too direct with your love and affection for her by being all too nice at the beginning, just hint at it and keep her guessing. She'll love you for it with you on her mind all night (provided you're not a jerk who's just doing that to lead her on without actually wanting to have a proper relationship with her).

As I said earlier, this game needs to be played, just don't do it for so long that she gives up.

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There still are a lot of things that I need to clarify, but that's what future posts are for right?

This post was originally supposed to be a lot longer, but I've cut this one short as I've got quite a bit on my head right now. Which school to go to, which course to choose... It's all weighing down on me pretty hard right now as I've only got about a week more to decide.

Yeah, it's so bad that I can quite clearly recall a dream where I was debating with a prominent senior politician about how stupid he was, leading a crusade against our dear Datin in school and suing a girl who was going on and on about how I was 5 minutes late for a date in court.

Yes, my dreams can get pretty weird when I'm stressed up and tired.

But before I finish this, I really want to thank all of you who have bothered to comment on my posts. It has been a great joy to read your comments and it's nice to see that this blog has brought about quite a bit of discussion. So please comment! Be it that you think that what I write is total nonsense or the holy writ, I want to hear what you think! (But just be sure to read through my arguments first lah!)

That's it for today,

Hamlet's Hero signing out.

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